June 2025 Blog - Forgiveness

FORGIVENESS

It seems to me that the word ‘Forgiveness’ needs to become more prevalent in our hearts and in our minds.

So much hate, separation and destruction is happening on our planet these days.  Not only in other countries and others lives, but in our own backyards too.  Somehow we cannot ignore what is going on but there are things we can do that can keep us feeling positive.

I know we are going through the birthing pains of a new human kind, but are we birthing a monster?  My hope is that we are birthing a new humanity that is more compassionate, more loving, more tolerant and more understanding.

There are actions happening that give me hope.  Peaceful demonstrations and protests, small kindnesses, the generosity of lots of people to those who are needing help.  In fact it seems that only the nasty things are ever circulated on social media or in the news, when there are so many kindnesses that are happening every day, so much courage and yes, forgiveness too.  But there is also so much abusive behaviour.   That is why I feel the need to bring ‘forgiveness’ more to the attention of us all.

Forgiveness is a very powerful thing to do.  It may not always free the one needing forgiveness but it does free the one who needs to forgive.

“I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator.  Forgiveness liberates the victim.  It’s a gift you give yourself.” - T.D. James.

That is why the Ho’oponopono is so powerful:

‘I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

I love you

Forgiveness is a very powerful tool and I think now more than ever, we should be using it.

It is not always easy to forgive, but understanding why perhaps the ‘other’ is behaving in a particular way can sometimes help.  Doing little rituals and meditations can also help.  Certainly the Ho’oponopono is a help and repeating it to yourself every day for a few minutes or longer certainly does help.

Of course the hardest people we need to forgive is ourselves.  Now is the time to take some time out in order to forgive ourselves too.  It was easy for me to know what to forgive myself for as I had been carrying the guilt for so long, but there were others things I hadn’t realised I needed to forgive myself about - not speaking up when I needed to, not showing love when I needed to, not standing up for myself, judging others, being envious, the list is endless.  With forgiveness I can love myself more, with forgiveness I can free myself.  With forgiveness I can live more my truth instead of making decisions based on guilt.

When you see what is happening in the world it is so hard to forgive the perpetrators but then I think if we can forgive then perhaps we are the new human the earth is trying to birth.  When we look at what is happening in the world from a higher perspective, we find there is no judgement only love for all involved.  If we are wanting to live from that space then the way forward is to practice forgiveness.  It doesn’t condone what the perpetrators are doing and have done.  All through this planets history human life has been sacrificed and people made to suffer for the wants of others.

Perhaps we are being given the chance to be part of this new birthing.  After all, we did choose to incarnate at this time and for many years we have been called ‘light workers’.  Maybe now is the time to show our light.   It’s not about standing still letting our light shine through the darkness like a lighthouse, it’s about showing our light in our actions.  When we are loving, compassionate, forgiving - that is when we are showing our light.

Of course we can be angry.  Even Christ showed his anger when he saw the wickedness of others, and I’m afraid he did go on the rampage.  I’m not recommending a rampage but don’t feel guilty about feeling angry.  Anger can often lead to positive action.

Let’s be positive.  Let’s meet together in rituals, marches, and meditations.  Let’s visualise peace and make it happen.  But let us also carry peace in our hearts and that can often come with forgiveness.

Be at peace, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and others - you are worth it.

Love as always - Patricia